Ep. 530 – Why Boundaries Feels so Hard (4 of 6)
If you’ve ever told yourself “I know I need boundaries, I just can’t seem to hold them,” this episode is for you.
In Episode 4 of 6 in the Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents series, we explore why boundaries feel so hard — and why that struggle actually makes sense when you understand the emotional environments many of us grew up in.
For children raised by emotionally immature parents, boundaries weren’t neutral. They were emotional risks. Needs were often dismissed, minimized, or met with guilt, withdrawal, or conflict. Over time, many children learned that connection required self-sacrifice.
In this episode, we discuss:
What boundaries actually are (and what they are not)
Why “just say no” advice often doesn’t work
How guilt, anxiety, and fear get tied to boundaries
The role the nervous system plays in boundary-setting
Common misconceptions about being “bad at boundaries”
Why compassion — not force — is the foundation of change
This episode isn’t about pushing yourself to have stronger boundaries.
It’s about understanding why your body learned that boundaries weren’t safe — and how awareness creates choice.
🌱 Gentle Reflection (Homework)
This week, simply notice:
When do I feel guilt for having a need?
What boundary feels hardest for me right now?
What emotion shows up right before I override myself?
You don’t need to act on it yet.
Noticing is enough.
🎧 Up Next: Episode 531 — Reparenting Yourself: What It Is (And What It Isn’t)Call to Action:
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